如何委婉的拒絕別人

　　有時(shí)候要拒絕別人的要求是很難的。接下來小編為大家整理了如何委婉的拒絕別人，希望對你有幫助哦!

　　1. “I'm not the best person to help on this. Why don't you try X?”

　　“我不是這項(xiàng)任務(wù)的最佳人選。要不你們看看X行不行?”

　　If you feel that you can not contribute much to the task, have no time or lack the resources, do not beat around the bush! Let the person know it up front. This, however, does not mean that you can not be helpful. You can still refer the person to a lead they can follow up on.

　　如果你覺得你不能在任務(wù)中投入太多精力，沒有那么多時(shí)間或缺少資源，那就不要拐彎抹角!讓別人知道。這樣，別人就不會覺得你沒有幫忙。你可以推薦他人供他們參考。

　　2. “I'm sorry but last time I did ___, I had a negative experience.”

　　“不好意思，上次我這樣做時(shí)，我很難受 。”

　　This is a life-saver for me every time I have to explain to people that I do not eat meat. Before I would say that I was a vegetarian, but for some reason this explanation has never worked on hospitable Italian grandmothers. They would try to feed me bacon, sausage and octopuses (yuck!) explaining it with “this is not meat” or “I just put a little in this dish”。

　　當(dāng)我每次需要向他人解釋我不吃肉時(shí)，這句話是我的救命稻草。在此之前，我通常說我是素食主義者，但是不知什么原因，這種解釋對好客的意大利奶奶們一點(diǎn)兒用也沒有。她們總是讓我吃培根、香腸和章魚(真難吃!)，并向我解釋“這不是肉”或“只放了一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)兒。”

　　Now I simply say, “I'm sorry, but I can not eat meat. Last time I did, I had a terrible headache.” And it works like a charm, because no one wants to hurt you on purpose.

　　現(xiàn)在我只是說，“不好意思，我不能吃肉。上次我吃肉時(shí)，我頭疼得很厲害。” 這非常管用，因?yàn)闆]人想故意傷害你。

　　The focus here is not on what you want or do not want to do, but on your previous badexperience.

　　這里要注意的是，關(guān)鍵不在于你想要什么或不想做什么，關(guān)鍵在于上次你這樣做很難受。

　　3. “I'd love to do this, but ____”

　　“我想這么做，但是____”。

　　This is a great way of saying that you like the idea, you are willing to help, but you just can not do it at the moment.

　　這是一種很好的方式，說你喜歡這樣做，你想去幫忙，但是你現(xiàn)在沒法做。

　　Note: Just do not go into a lengthy justification of why you can not do it.

　　注意：不要進(jìn)一步說明你為什么不能做。

　　First, it is not necessary. Time is a limited resource and when you say “yes” to one task, you have to say “no” to other opportunities that might be more important, urgent and beneficial to you at the moment. Second, offering a lengthy explanation makes you sound guilty and unsure, so people might push further to see if you will agree.

　　首先，沒有必要。每個(gè)人的時(shí)間都是有限的，當(dāng)你對一項(xiàng)任務(wù)說“是”的時(shí)候，你就不得不對另外的一些機(jī)遇說“不”，盡管那些機(jī)遇現(xiàn)在對你來說可能是更加重要、緊急或有益的。另外，進(jìn)一步解釋會讓你有種負(fù)罪感和不確定感，人們可以進(jìn)一步勸說你看你是否會同意。

　　4.“This sounds interesting, but I have too much on my plate at the moment.”

　　“聽起來很有趣，但是我現(xiàn)在有太多的事情要做。”

　　When you start your disagreement with a compliment: “this sounds interesting”， it makes the person less defensive and gives you a validreason to decline “I have too much on my plate at the moment”。

　　如果你在表達(dá)異議時(shí)用贊美開頭：“聽起來很有趣”，會讓人的心理防御降低，這時(shí)你可以用正當(dāng)理由來拒絕，如“我現(xiàn)在有太多的事情要做。”